Humor
Every body Knows about the word sence of human,
but a very few people use to of using sence of
humor, we can say its also a key to sucess when
we use it at working invoirment. It can be
understood from both logical and psychological
viewpoints.
Good sense of humor reduces stress, helps you
cope with pain, creates empathy in social situations,
and can even improve your odds of finding a mate.
But what is a “good” sense of humor, and how can
you improve yours?
Control Eager with humor
Angry people tend to jump to conclusions, however
far-fetched. If you are in a heated discussion, slow
down. Listen carefully to what the other person is
saying. And take your time before answering.
Instead of saying the first thing that comes into
your head, think carefully about what you want to
say.
Humor can help defuse rage in several ways.
For one thing, it can help you get a more balanced
perspective. When you find yourself thinking of a
coworker as a single-cell life form, think what that
would look like, picturing an amoeba sitting at a
desk and talking on the phone. Or draw a picture.
Doing so will take the edge off your fury or help
defuse a tense situation.
Humor can also help when you find yourself being
unreasonable. If you find yourself thinking that
things not going your way is an unbearable
indignity you shouldn’t have to tolerate, picture
yourself as a god or goddess who always gets your
way while others defer to you. The more detail you
add, the more you’ll realize how unreasonable you
are and how unimportant the things you’re angry
about really are.
There are two cautions in using humor.
First, don’t try to just “laugh off” your problems.
Rather, use humor to help yourself face them more
constructively.
Second, don’t use harsh, sarcastic humor. Such
humor is just another form of aggression.
What these techniques have in common is a refusal
to take yourself too seriously
a-Laugh at others (within reason)
Charlie Chaplin wrote, “The one point of human
nature that I play upon more than anything else…is
that it strikes people as funny when they see
someone else placed in an undignified and
embarrassing situation.” His insights are as true
today as they were 2,500 years ago when Plato
pitched what we now call the “Superiority Theory”
of humor, which basically explains that laughter is
an expression of our superiority over an
embarrassing individual, or even a former state of
ourselves.
b-Learn to laugh at yourself
If you can find the absurdity in your own
circumstances, you can keep them from getting you
down. If you attack your own fears and
embarrassments by turning them into amusing
stories that you share, friends will laugh with you
—and laughter is the best medicine.
Having a good sense of humor reduces stress,
helps you cope with pain, creates empathy in social
situations, and can even improve your odds of
finding a mate. But what is a “good” sense of
humor, and how can you improve yours?
How you can Improve your sence of humor
Principle
The basic principle of humor is that it is unexpected
in some way.
In jokes, for example, a situation is painted,
expectation of a result is set up, and then a
different result produced from from that which is
expected.
Sense-making
We live in real-time and have to make sense of
everything as it happens.
When we understand, we can predict, and when we
predict, we can decide on the appropriate actions
by which we can avoid harm and achieve our needs
and goals.
a-Surprise and confusion
As a part of this internal system of inference, the
predictions create expectation, and when these are
not met, as happens in humor, the result is
surprise and a temporary confusion while we
desperately try to make sense of this unexpected
situation.
We predict using models, values and other rules.
Humor may hence work by breaking such
expectation-inducing patterns.
b-Delayed understanding
There is hence a delayed understanding as we
internally search for meaning. This includes
reviewing different interpretations of what has just
happened and selecting the option which seems to
fit best.
The delay can be very short as we quickly make
sense of what is said. It can also take several
seconds or even need some verbal explanation. The
best jokes often have a delay of around a second
before realization kicks in.
If you’re not particularly funny, you might start off
as a parrot (“I heard something funny the other
day…”). Immersing yourself in humor will definitely
help you parrot away. However, if you want to
evolve from parroting, don’t just memorize or recite
jokes. Pay attention to comedians’ timing and
delivery. Notice their facial expressions and body
language. You don’t have to replicate it, but you
should notice it so you can use it in your own jokes.
The humor point
When things make sense after the confusion and
delay, then we find things funny.
a-Relief
When people have been in danger or are
threatened by some risk, it is common for them to
laugh when the threat has passed. This is a form of
closure, where the tension of the perceived risk is
released.
The same principle happens with humor, where the
confusion, which raises the possibility of threat, is
resolved. This is a kind of relief, where we can relax
and smile.
b-Safe danger
One of the things we enjoy is ‘safe danger’, where
we can experience threats that are not really
threats, for example in the vicarious experience of
watching contact sports or horror movies. Jokes
and funny situations act in a similar way as the
uncertainty creates a sense of danger, yet we know
we will not be harmed.
One view of the origin of laughter is where a parent
whizzes a child up and down and the child makes
smiling breathless ‘huh, huh’ noises as they enjoy
the thrill of the ‘danger’ in the movement.
c-Learning
Jokes are not so funny when told again, as there is
no surprise or confusion the second time around.
When we make sense of something that formerly
did not make sense, we are learning. Young
children learn through play. Humor can be
deliberately used as an integral part of education,
making learning fun again.
d-Creative aha
In another way, this is like creativity, where there
is a delay between looking for an idea and the aha
of discovery. The tension of seeking a solution
prompts the brain to come up with a new idea. The
closure of the ‘aha’ moment can feel a lot like
humor and the person may well laugh.
e-Pain and pleasure
Humor also leans on the fundamental principle of
pain and pleasure. The discomfort of not
understanding is a form of pain, while the sudden
realization is a form of pleasure. As these rapidly
sequence together, the resultant feeling can be a
strange mingling of both pain and pleasure at the
same time.
f-Good and bad jokes
Good jokes make use of timing, aligning description
by the teller with the thinking and understanding
process of the listener. In this way, the person is
already trying to make sense of what is said before
the end of the joke/ The punchline acts as a control
element when it is necessary and sufficient to
trigger final understanding.
A bad joke either does not lead to confusion as the
audience understands it easily, or else it just leaves
them confused. Bad jokes make people irritatedly
think ‘hah’ rather than the funny ‘aha’ (or perhaps
‘haha’) of understanding.
Having a sence of humor at work place
a- Opening up lines of communication. If you can
get someone to laugh, you can get them to listen.
b- Humor diffuses conflict. If you see a situation
leading to gridlock, toss out a one liner. It creates a
lighter mood and people are more willing to reach a
compromise. Good negotiators are often masters at
humor.
c- Laughter leads to better relationships. Meeting
someone new? Start with a joke or a shared
moment of laughter.
d- People learn more, and learn faster, when they
laugh. That’s why good teachers often employ
humor as a teaching aid.
e- Getting people to laugh at work reduces
absenteeism. They’ll want to show up for work if
you can make them laugh.
Humor isn’t a miracle cure for relationship problems but it can be an important tool to help you overcome the rough spots that afflict every relationship from time to time. Whether your relationship problems stem from issues connected to money, sex, commitment, health, employment, parenting styles, or growing apart, you can use humor to help resolve problems and strengthen relationships.